... is going to be the title of my new parenting book.
Many studies have shown that being stinking rich doesn't make one happy. People who've won the lottery return to their baseline mood.
I'd like to challenge this finding first hand if you don't mind.
The way I'm going to tackle this is to write a parenting book. Last night, while on our father-daughter Thursday night on the town, I fell prey to a parenting book in the library while Frankie was playing computer games. It was called "Parenting Without Fear". I forget the author's name and I'm not going to waste your time by giving a link. I'm just lucky I saw it at the library and didn't buy it. But, I was vulnerable and picked it up because of the title. Hence, the title of my book.
Nothing can shake up one's insecurities like parenting decisions. We make them, stand by them and hope we don't screw up our little ones in the process. We also try desperately to minimize engaging in social comparison. Yet, we still stumble on these rags. My only idol in the field is Dr. Sears; lots of good advice, no flashy book titles and his advice is largely free online. Again, what lures me in is the title. It's like being stabbed with a fork and the only way to get it out is to pick it up and torture yourself by reading a few pages.
The author tries to convince the reader of an authoritative style of parenting and claims repeatedly his style is not authoritarian. He fails repeatedly. He describes many anecdotes in which the parents have made wrong decisions and never bothers to mention that the child in two different situations may actually be different and may require different learning strategies. I don't want to rant about this author more than I already have, it's not worth it, and I don't want to disclose the specific reasons why he would consider my wife and I complete failures as parents because parenting decisions are private. (No, we've never laid a hand on Frankie in anger, ever, and a frequently used reward system utilizes smoked pork products, but that's all I'll say.)
So, I'm considering starting work on my book. I think it'll be amazingly short because there are no general parenting rules. Every kid's different and every situation is different. But, with a title like that, how could you not pick it up? Sounds like a book Ann Coulter would write. I'll make millions.
Chapter Outline to follow.